Have you ever noticed that many times when you come across people that are cynical towards life, they almost always justify themselves as being “realistic?” Ironically enough, this excuse of being realistic is not only used by the cynics, it is also found among the lazy and fearful individuals. These people go through life constantly running towards anything that is safe and mediocre so in turn they live lives that are unfulfilling and bland. Awaken your marvelous mind and start paying attention, how many times have you had someone tell you to “be realistic?” I am convinced that people hear this so much that they think that it is a good thing. At this point you may be wondering “what’s wrong with being realistic,” so allow me to connect the dots for you. About 75 percent of Americans go to occupations that they do not like or wish that they could change. These people get up every day to go to a job that they hate, are payed well below their worth and are given a measly two weeks of vacation a year. Even though most are miserable with their occupations, they still go. If you realize just how short and fragile life is you will see the insanity in this. So why do these people spend so much time at a company that brings them no joy or sense of purpose, why do they subject themselves to a boring and routine life? It is because of fear and laziness, so instead of admitting this, they convince themselves that they are being sensible and realistic. I once heard Will Smith say, “being realistic is the most commonly traveled path to mediocrity.” He went on to say that “it is unrealistic for you to bend a piece of metal, and fly people over an ocean in that metal, but luckily the Wright brothers and others like them didn’t think so.”
Think about all the great things that thinking realistically will cause you to miss out on. When your friends invite you to go snowboarding the realistic side of you will tell you that you don’t like the cold and that you won’t be any good, when you have a talent and are contemplating leaving your job to use that talent the realistic side of you will tell you that you are being ridiculous and that what you should aim for is safety and security, and when you almost have the courage to go out into the world and manifest your dreams, your friends, family, and loved ones will be quick to tell you that you must be “realistic” and to aim for a smaller and easily obtainable goal. This is where the saying, “It is crowded at the bottom,” comes to play. I have a sign that hangs on a wall in my office to give me the strength to persist when everyone else would turn back, it reads…
If not me,Who?
If not now, when?
When a child says to her parents that she wants to be an astronaut or a doctor it is seen as cute, but years later when that child , who is now in her early twenties declares that she wants to do these things she it told to “be realistic.” You must realize that the only person that truly knows whats right for you, is you! You must believe that nothing is impossible! I once heard someone say that something always seems impossible, until someone comes along and does it. I don’t know about you, but I plan to be that person. In my pocket I carry a small book with ideas that come to me throughout the day. These ideas are a mixture of inventions and mobile applications that most would say was impossible. If I was to think”realistically,” I would have never had the book in the first place, and all the progress and motivation that has come from that tiny book would be nonexistent.
When I decided to leave the corporate world and work on my own ideas, most told me that I was being unrealistic. The decision was not easy, up to this point I thought that the realistic thoughts were my allies. But there was one thought that beat out the rest, it was a question that I could not answer. How can I raise my children to pursue their dreams at all costs, if my own life is one of mediocrity and wasted potential? From that point on, the choice was simple, and I have never looked back.
You must realize just how difficult it is to find your true purpose in life and that when you do find it, most will not understand or support it. They are the non-believers of this world, they are the 75 percent who hate what they do but continue to do it, they are the ones who are still believing and clinging on to”realistic” thoughts. When people come at you and try to tear down your dream, remember the words of Charles Bukowski…
“Beware the average man, the average woman, beware their love.
Their love is average, seeks average…
They will attempt to destroy anything that differs from their own
Not being able to create art, they will not understand art.
Not being able to love fully, they will believe your love incomplete…”
Stay out of the clutches of mediocrity.